Second Thoughts? Think Again!
Life is perfect. If you have read these articles long enough, you have seen this written in several different forms and ways. There is even a series on it in one of my ebooks. Life is perfect is a way of living for me. If I understand that I have the ability to create my life by the actions I take, then I understand that both the life I live today and the life I will live tomorrow is perfect in that sense.
Except when it is not.
Last week we had the flu bug. (Actually, the little sucker is still hanging around!) Our five year old was having such a hard time getting a breath that it hurt just to watch him. I have been able to lay in bed and on the couch for a couple or three days. Did the actions I take create this in my life?
When you are not feeling your best, and things seem to get out of control (as they sometimes do), then one begins to question the strength of their beliefs.
Am I on the correct path? There are so many from which to choose! Will I really be able to reach my current goals? Why does it sometimes seem so difficult? Do I really need to write another article? Who is even reading them?
This is the place where I used to buckle up and get to work. I would remind myself that thoughts like these are my fears surfacing, and I must squash them before they can do me harm. Now, however, I think a little differently.
I am not afraid of my fears, and I do not treat them badly. I accept them, let them surface and look at them very carefully.
Is there anything here I need to consider that I might be avoiding, or hiding from? Am I doing what I want to be doing according to my defined values and my definitions of success?
I can also go back and review where I have come from, and where I appear to be heading. Am I pleased with the results? Am I excited about the future? Am I excited about today?
So, with all of that said - now what?
I am going to take a bit of time, stand back and review. I will look back on what had been accomplished, congratulate myself, and be grateful for the help I have had. I will look ahead and reevaluate my plans, and ensure that they are still right for me. I will take a deep breath and commit to the principles of values and my definitions of success to be absolutely sure I am doing everything in my power so I have a... you guessed it... perfect life!
Your online Coach and Friend,
Quotation for the Week
Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined. Henry David Thoreau (1817 - 1862)
About The Author
Miami Phillips is an ANSIR Certified Personal Coach and the founder of Creative MasterMinds who believes personal growth is an essential ingredient to being happy and contributing to this world. While his main focus is affordable personal and business coaching, he also offers motivational teleclasses, ebooks, reading recommendations and much more. To find out more visit his site at http://www.creativemasterminds.com or send him an email at firstname.lastname@example.org
Direct Answers - Column for the week of January 20, 2003
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Direct Answers - Column for the week of July 1, 2002
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Directions For Life
Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully. Memorize your favorite poem. Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want. When you say, "I love you", mean it. When you say, "I'm sorry", look the person in the eye. Believe in love at first sight. Never laugh at anyone's dreams. Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely. In arguments, fight fair. Talk slow but think quick. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk. Call your mom. Say "bless you" when you hear someone sneeze. Don't let a little disagreement ruin a great friendship. When you realize you've made a mistake, act immediately to fix it. Marry someone you love to talk to. As you grow old together, your ability to communicate will be more important than their physical attributes. Spend some time alone. Open your arms to change, but don't let go of your values. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer. Read more books and watch less TV. Try your best to create a loving atmosphere in your home - this is a vital factor that will contribute significantly to your children's happiness and your family's harmony. In disagreements with loved ones, deal with the current situation. Don't bring up the past. Read between the lines. Share your knowledge. It's a way to achieve immortality. Be gentle with the earth...and yourself. Pray. There's immeasurable power in it. Don't trust someone who doesn't close their eyes when you kiss them. Once a year, go someplace you've never been before. If you make a lot of money, put it to use helping others while you are living. That is wealth's greatest satisfaction. Remember that the best relationship is one where your love for each other is greater than your need for each other. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it. Do not forget that your character is your destiny.
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