The Amazing Success Secret Anyone Can Start Using Today

However there is one success secret that costs nothing. And we canall use it today to get ahead more quickly. I am talking aboutcultivating exceptional people skills in a way that puts youahead of the crowd, in a way that respects and honors the peopleyou deal with in your life.

Ironically when we neglect people skills the complex business andsocial infrastructure of our world can fall over in a moment. Whatdo I mean?

Have you ever walked into the store of a major nationwide retailerand walked through the multimillion dollar premises only to findnobody to serve you?

Have you ever phoned your bank and got a busy signal or even worsegot cut off despite their huge customer service focusedadvertising campaigns.

How about in your workplace? Have you ever done a fantasticjob, stayed late to get it done and felt taken for granted? Thecorporate slogan about caring for the welfare of the staff ringshollow after this happens more than once.

On the other hand if you learn from the most successfulindividuals and companies you will find one trait in common --excellent people skills.

Here are three ways to become more successful by developing yourpeople skills:

1 Learn from people who manage to remain cheerful in the face ofmassive challenges and stress.

A good friend of mine was on the verge of losing his business lastyear but you would never have guessed it. He was always smilingand confident things would get better. He somehow managed to stilltreat his staff well even when he was worried about running out ofmoney.

By listening to him and watching him cope with extreme financialpressure I learned a lot. His belief that everything would workout kept him smiling even while facing some very dark hours.

You too need to become better under pressure. Anyone can cope wellwhen things are going well. It is only when you shine underpressure that you prove to yourself and the world that you aredestined for better things.

2 Exceptional people skills happen at the margin.

To go from average to good and from good to excellent is possiblein a short time when you make incremental improvements each day.

You do not need to change your personality or go on a two weekcourse. Simply focus on listening skills, on non verbalcommunication and on building confidence.

Read some good books, get advice from experts and apply what youlearn. By making only very slight improvements where it mattersmost you will quickly develop exceptional people skills.

The very best performers in sport and in business are onlymarginally better than their closest competitors and these slightmargins make all the difference between winning and losing.

Aim to make marginal improvements in your ability to communicatewith confidence and your results will improve dramatically. Nowwould be a great time to get started!

3 Say what you mean and mean what you say

Mark Twain famously commented that common sense is not that commonand today sincerity and honesty are far from common either.

You can stand out from the crowd by making a point of saying whatyou mean instead of saying what you think people want to hear.Insincerity is a game you can never win as you are always livingin fear of getting caught out.

If you follow through on what you say people will respect you foryour integrity and you will be known and appreciated as someonewho can be counted on.

Be unusual -- hold yourself to a high standard of integrity andcommit to saying what you mean and doing what you say you will.

When you live like this each day other people develop confidencein you and in what you say. And success in the world gets a wholelot easier with a team of people who believe in you paving theroad ahead.

Peter Murphy is a peak performance expert. He recentlyproduced a very popular free report: 10 Simple Steps toDeveloping Communication Confidence. Apply now becauseit is available for a limited time only at: http://www.howtotalkwithconfidence.com/report.htm