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Ten Reasons to Tell your Kids Stories
In today's busy world, many parents have lost theart of telling their stories to their kids. Here are ten reasons why these stories are so beneficial: 1. Use them to teach lessons about life. Stories will stimulate conversations with yourkids more effectively than lecturing or "trying toget them to talk. There are a lot of issues happening for your kids these days, and stories give them a chance to reflect on them. 2. Stories connect your kids with previousgenerations. In a society that seems to have families spreadout all over, it's vitally important to have waysto have your kids feel connected to their extendedfamilies. 3. Stories stimulate your kids' imagination. One of the best ways to prepare your kids for theworld is to engage them in vivid stories that stirtheir imagination. Kids who are exposed to thesekinds of stories will be the creativeproblem-solvers of the future. 4. Kids who are exposed to stories will continuethe tradition with their own families. Knowing that your family traditions and storieswill be carried on by future generations is verycomforting. 5. Stories can encourage your kids when they'rediscouraged Childhood can get pretty discouraging sometimes.Kids are encouraged by knowing that Mom or Dadhave gone through the same kinds of things andhave survived. 6. Telling your stories has you remembering yourown childhood. Telling your kids about your childhood is a greatway for you to remember and reflect on what wasimportant about your younger years. 7. Telling stories helps to create depth and soulin your kids. In a TV and media-crazy culture, telling storiescan capture your kids' attention and convey realmeaning. It's a way to show your kids what's reallyimportant in your life. 8. Telling stories to your kids tells them they'reworth the time. Is there anything more important than conveying toyour kids that you want to spend intimate timewith them? They'll remember it forever. 9. Telling stories is a great chance to convey your values. Your kids will be getting quite a few messagesfrom their friends and from popular culture.Stories are a great opportunity to sneak in a fewof your cherished values for your kids to hear. 10. Well-crafted stories create a wonderfulmind-set for your kids before they fall asleep. Kids will fall asleep faster and with healthierimages when you tell them your stories. Don't pass up the opportunity to connect with your kids, at the same time you tell them what's important to you. It will be a huge gift to your kids, and a huge gift to you. Mark Brandenburg MA, CPCC, coaches busy parents byphone to balance their life and improve their familyrelationships. For a FREE twenty minute sample session by phone; ebooks, courses, articles, and a FREE newsletter, go to http://www.markbrandenburg.com. or email him at mark@markbrandenburg.com.
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